It’s so easy to use being a parent as an excuse to not pay attention to you want. With all the responsibilities that us parents have, it can feel easy to “park” what you want until another time. However, I’m here to tell you that you need to keep your career goals in mind when you are a parent. Why? Because everyday we are being career role models for the next generation.
You’ve probably sat down and gone through all the reasons why you can’t make that career or business change quite yet. They are logical, emotional and practical reasons that give you the justification to compromise. To keep things how they are.
Any of these ring true? Have you told yourself “I’ll wait”:
- Until they are at school.
- Until they are older
- Until they need me less.
- Until I have more time.
- Until I’ve been here five years
- Until the time is right.
Until, until, until. Before you know it, time has passed, and you have got into a groove of how things are. Then, it’s harder to make the change … maybe you have left it THAT LATE that it’s now all about the Grandkids?!
There is NEVER the right time to make a change. There will always be responsibilities and needs and other people that influence what is going on. All you can do it plan, take action and manage the unknown.
It’s a bit like becoming a parent. You know the saying, there is never the right time. It’s a massive leap of faith. Yet, you’ve taken it!
There is often another layer of emotion that often comes up with parents when we talk about career goals.
You may not have admitted it to yourself, but this comes up more often than I would like it to.
Have you decided that you need to be a martyr to parenthood? That it’s selfish to do what you want? That even though you have a desperate yearning to go for that promotion, or return to work after a career break, or start that business, you feel like EVERYTHING has to be put on hold, as otherwise you are a BAD PARENT?
It’s time for a reality check.
I ask you this. If and when YOUR kids become parents, would you want them to put their aspirations and wishes on hold? Would you judge them to be a “bad parent?”
Or would you want them to keep paying attention to their own needs, their well-being, and their career?
I bet I know the answer to that question.
We have to remember, how we parent and how we talk about work (WHATEVER that happens to be) now is the example, and the role model, we are setting our kids for their future.
Don’t you want your children to know that work is something to be enjoyed not endured?
That they have choices about how they live their life and make their money?
If the answer is yes, you do need to start paying attention to what example you are setting RIGHT NOW.
So, today I want you to start thinking about if you are being the role model you want to be for your children?
Are you sharing your aspirations, talking positively about what you do, discussing your future plans and involving them in your “non-parent” life?
If not, what can you start doing TODAY to make the difference?
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Clara Wilcox is a straight-talking, practical and experienced coach helping clients navigate the tricky waters of returning to work, career changes and professional development. The Balance Collective is a social enterprise focused on improving the lives of parents, by working together to build inner confidence and promote a healthy work/life balance. Isn’t it time you had a career to enjoy, not endure?